Where I've been ...

[liziJ]

Just thought I'd quickly explain my sudden absence from the forum. Some of you already know this, but for those that don't, a few weeks ago my husband and I separated. It was my decision but it wasn't really a choice as I've been really unhappy for a long time.

I'm OK but it's obviously extremely hard work suddenly becoming a single parent to 3-year-old twins. Added to that, my health hasn't been great - my cough has really stepped up a gear - so I'm exhausted.

I have been popping in to read the forum but not had the energy to post - and wasn't sure how to just drop it into the conversation!

Anyway, just wanted to let you know.

Lizi x

[crocker]

Sorry to here of all you have been going through but things do get easier as time goes on .Been in this position myself and no what you are going through hope it all works out and you children will get you through . Lorraine

[gilliem]

I'm sad for you. Lizi, but I hope that now the big decision's made you'll be able to enjoy an easier frame of mind and that your health will improve. Keep us posted.
Best wishes,
Gillie.

[susand]

I hope you can sort out the DLA to help you, especially through this stressful time. How can you work, care for the twins and manage your health without becoming exhausted.
Meanwhile perhaps a claim for ESA would help?

Take care

Sue (susand)

[glowing]

Hi Lizi. So sorry you're going through such a hard time. I too have been there, many years ago when my three children were very young. Once you've made such a brave difficult decision peace of mind and your love for your children will see you through. I wish you good health and happiness.
Glowing

[john]

chin up liz, thanks for sharing your big news, as everyone says things WILL get easier.
till then, if you need to rant /chat, as always, you know where to find me!!
see you at ghu on thursday
love john

[mali42]

Hi Liz
I am sorry to hear that, things will seem brighter in the future and your probably stressed at the moment which does not help with having cvid and having to cope with twins.

I hope you start to feel better soon and your cough goes.
Malcolm

[liz2mac]

Hi Lizi,
It's not really a surprise that the marriages of people with a Primary Antibody Deficiency are put under enourmous pressure and fail more often than those of the general population. We all know the reasons why, when you're ill you need your partner to be able to understand all of the impliactions of the illness on day to day issues; and we need our partners to step up to the mark. Its a hell of a big ask. I'm sure we can be VERY difficult to live with at times, being ill doesn't lead to sweetness and light! However, those of us who do have happy partnerships (thank you John for being SO supportive of me) can be a testament to the fact that PAD does not make us unloveable or impossible to live with. If a marriage is dodgy, PAD will sure show up the fault lines!
Lizi, a lot of us have been or are single Mums and it's not easy, particularly when you feel like s***, but in some ways its easier than living in a relationship which is destructive to all concerned. I'm guessing that there are some single Dad's with PAD out there who no longer have the day to day contact with their kids that they'd love to have, we're thinking of you too.
Hang on in there girl, it WILL get better and we're all here to support you as much as we can, even if it is at arms length!
Liz